Love

„If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels,
but have not love,
I am a noisy gong
or a clanging cymbal.
And if I have prophetic powers,
and understand all mysteries
and all knowledge,
and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains,
but have not love,
I am nothing.
If I give away all I have,
and if I deliver up my body to be burned,
but have not love,
I gain nothing.
Love is patient and kind;
love does not envy or boast;
it is not arrogant or rude.
It does not insist on its own way;
it is not irritable or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrongdoing,
but rejoices with the truth.
Love bears all things,
believes all things,
hopes all things,
endures all things.
Love never ends.
As for prophecies, they will pass away;
as for tongues, they will cease;
as for knowledge, it will pass away.
For we know in part and we prophesy in part,
but when the perfect comes,
the partial will pass away.
When I was a child,
I spoke like a child,
I thought like a child,
I reasoned like a child.
When I became a man,
I gave up childish ways.
For now we see in a mirror dimly,
but then face to face.
Now I know in part;
then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.
So now faith, hope, and love abide – these three:
but the greatest of these is Love”.

～ 1 COR 13, 1-13

This hymn accompanies me since June 26, 2004. The first time I heard it in its entirety and attention was at my own wedding. From time to time it reminds about itself. And lately, lots more often. I don’t know what is causing it. Maybe the time has come in my life to focus more on the spiritual zone than the material one. Being where I am now, a lot of thoughts come to my mind. I analyse it and come to the conclusion that life is so fragile and fleeting that you need to take care of and cherish every moment. Enjoy what you have at the moment, appreciate it, do not expect more, and do not think of how it was before or what you had.

Reading this hymn with focus and understanding, I see how much we are missing to be truly happy. Each of us has our own goals and strives for them, assuming that when achieved, they will be happy. Are you sure? Does it actually make us happy? Or is it just a momentary sense of happiness? That wish list that never ends. We are so anxious and busy to achieve the goal that we do not have time for this Love. The true one, from the anthem. Not the one we think it is the one or it should look like that.

I decided to write this post after watching a short YouTube video that my best friend Ania sent me. She always sends me what she wants to watch, because she knows if she sends it to me, she can come back to it and it won’t get lost. Thanks to her system for “not losing what she wants to see, but now there is no time” I can only benefit, which makes me very happy.

This is an interview with a man who tells how he met his wife and about their experiences that changed their approach to love. About the fact that, in reality, we often confuse Love with possession.

The purpose of our life is to Love and be always ready to learn to love others. Unfortunately, these days, some adults “buy” themselves Love. I know it sounds terrible, but it’s the truth. By satisfying the whims of children, or buying them gifts, some drown out their consciences. In fact, it is only temporary, because they do not really need it. Contrary to what can be seen, deep down, every person needs Love (but the true one), and even more so children and nothing in the world is able to replace it. Sometimes it is enough to put the phone aside and pay attention, listen to what someone has to say, spend time together. Maybe someone just has to throw out what’s bothering him because they’ve had a bad day. Without giving wise advice, without criticizing, on the contrary, supporting, just listening. Sometimes just being with the other person and giving them 100% of your time, without any distractions, is an expression of Love and it is the best that can be. Believe me, better than the best gift.

Everyone knows that at any moment someone can leave or pass away, but we often forget about it. Let’s try to live in such a way that we do not regret a single moment. Nothing and no one is given to us forever. We have to remember that. That’s why we have to love each other and live like this is our last time together. You know that it’s going to be hard because it’s hard to Love. It often happens that we do not even know how to Love because no one taught us, showed us, or even loved. Maybe didn’t know how or didn’t have time to teach us or show us how to love truly. Maybe never experienced it, and thinks that’s what love is. Just like showing us. That doesn’t mean we have to replicate that kind of love. We can consciously learn to love truly and thereby also teach others.

Maybe you haven’t told your partner, your child, your parents in a long time that you love them. For some, it can be very difficult, especially when we have wounds that make it difficult. I think we should learn that. To overcome this shame, which apart from wounds is the biggest barrier, in saying to a loved one “I Love You”. How easy it is for us to shout at someone, to get angry, to say openly, and how much harder it is to apologize, to admit to a mistake, to say “I love you”. We don’t even realize how saying “I love you” can change someone’s life or even their perspective on other things. Maybe this is the medicine that the person needs the most at this moment. I know for sure that this is the key 🗝 to our hearts ❤️️. Some of them are more, some less hardened, but you can always crush them with Love. To which, I cordially urge you to do.

Do not forget that Love is the centre of our lives. Unfortunately, in today’s times, the main role is played by anxiety, fear, consternation, depression, and many of the like. All we need is Love, the one which starts with a BIG “L”. Not yelling, screaming, aggression, arguing, or fighting should be present in our lives, but calmness, composure, understanding, a positive relationship, or a common attempt to start a conversation, so we can talk to each other. Talking is half the battle. You can achieve a lot by talking, and when you add Love to it, you don’t need anything else. Success guaranteed 🏆.

Look around, see how much aggression is around us. It’s well known that aggression breeds aggression, but maybe it’s worth trying something different this time. Respond to aggression with Love. What do you think? Will that change anything? I think that it will for sure.

Remember, you have your own life, for which you are responsible, and you can always start over. Just as you want, so truly, with Love, the kind that you yourself would like to be endowed with.

I think we’re able to help our relationships through a little gesture like a smile, a pat on the shoulder, and sometimes just a hug or a hold of hands. You know, as I mentioned above, in the beginning, it will be difficult because perhaps no one has ever hugged us, or it was so long ago that we are out of the habit, but through such small steps, we will begin to tear down this invisible wall between us, which really exists, but we do not notice it, or do not want to notice it. Because it’s more convenient for us, so let it be as it is. Oh, NO! Why should be the way it is now? Why can’t it be better? Because we are lazy? Because we’re scared? But what, what are we afraid of? Love? Love is the most beautiful feeling that we can be endowed with. The more Love we get, the more we can give to those who need it. Believe that Love can work miracles. Do you want to find out? Then try it yourself.

Let me know what miracles have happened in your life with the participation of Love, but the real one, with a BIG “L”, which you offered to some person. What has changed in their life? Or maybe something’s changed in yours, too…

With all my heart, dear ones, I wish you this wonderful true Love so that you can share it and also accept it with joy.

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